I think most of us have watched as an older loved one deteriorated in old age. We have seen death slowly close in around them. As they slowly seem to lose pieces of their personality, they begin to revert to a younger version of themselves.

My mother, who suffered from dementia for several years, eventually got to a point where she communicated less and less. Eventually she reverted to mainly listening to hymns that she was familiar with from her youth. She had a radio that only played these types of songs, and you could see they still resonated with her right up until the end.

If your home has a basement, you have likely seen how basic a foundation is. Often it is simply made of cinder blocks carefully stacked one on top of another. They are not necessarily pretty to look at, but they do what they are designed to do, to create a foundation for whatever is built above it.

In looking for homes over the years I have seen some beautiful places that have every bell and whistle, but when you go down and take a look at the foundation you see that it is cracked and leaking. Suddenly all that beauty built above it loses its luster.

So, it is with our own lives. We can be so busy in building a “good life”, where others see us as successful, that we fail to slow down and look at the foundation on which we have built all this success. It is a very common problem.

When was the last time you stopped to ponder your foundation? For many it’s been a long time.

Whether you are ready for it or not, death and the stages that lead to it are just around the corner. Just as we build up to a normal adult life, spending the better part of two or three decades before we become fully functioning adults, so we can spend a similar amount of time winding down our lives before we meet our final end.

Sadly, so many don’t embrace this natural process, pushing all thoughts of their own mortality out of their minds until the very last moments. It is an unnatural way to live. To know we will end, and yet spend so little time pondering it, is not a sign of a life well lived.

One day in the not-too-distant future, we will slowly see the “walls” of our beautifully built lives fall down around us, and we will eventually be left with just a few foundation stones. They will be those few stones we built our entire lives on. The very ones we put in there in our lives from childhood.

For those who haven’t spent the time ensuring that their foundation stones are solid, they will slowly just sink into the abyss, leaving little for future generations to use as guiding stones for their own lives.

As we have heard so many times over our lives the final stage of grief is acceptance. Death is the natural end of every life here on earth. The wise take heed of this and learn. They learn that the inevitable is not to be feared as much as respected and prepared for.

“Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old, they will not depart from it.”
-Proverbs 22:6                                                                                     

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