Over the years Mom-isms have reigned in almost every household. These little bits of wisdom have shaped us into who we are today. I was thinking about some of these Mom-isms and realized that not only have I repeated many of them to my kids, but they can still be applied in our lives as well.
The recent change in leadership for our country has instilled great passion, both good and bad – but mostly bad. While I am not going to stand here and argue sides with you, I do find that Mom’s wisdom might still be able to serve us well. While there are just too many Mom-isms to list, let’s take a look at a handful of them and see how they might apply to the challenges we are facing.
Complaining never solved anything – Whether you watch the news, surf the web, or peruse social media, negativity is everywhere. I understand that many people don’t agree with much of what is going on, but going onto Facebook or Twitter to rant is not solving anything. In fact, I have seen more relationships lost over the past months that ever before. The hatred is astounding; and what is it solving? Nothing! Rather than complain, let’s channel this passion into making a positive difference. And no, it won’t be easy.
If you keep making that face, it’ll freeze that way – If we as a society can’t figure out how we can come together, resentment will become a permanent part of our identity; and once that happens, all hope will be lost.
If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you? – Unfortunately, the strong opinions of the few are influencing the opinions of the many. Often it is way too much work for someone to do their own research and form their own opinion. It’s far easier to let someone else do the work, let them express their strong opinion, and then jump on whatever wagon they are pulling. And just because one person thinks it’s okay to go skinny-dipping in a pool of piranhas does not mean it’s a good idea.
Talking to you is like talking to a brick wall. – Now, I don’t think mom was talking about the brick wall that is a huge argument today. Rather, I believe she was referring to the fact that we wouldn’t listen to her. Have you found lately that you can’t seem to have a calm, logical conversation with someone of a different opinion? One side always seems to go off the deep end and then refuses to listen to the opposite opinion. How are we ever going to get to a point of unity if we refuse to listen to each other?
Where are your manners? Were you raised by wolves? – When we look at how our society is treating each other, you have to wonder where we learned our manners. The way we talk to people who don’t agree with us is completely unacceptable. Each and every one of us is created in the image of God, and to not treat each other as such is sinful.
God gave you a brain, use it. – It’s wonderful that people are so passionate about the challenges and issues that face us, but we need to begin using our brains. Name calling, screaming, whining, and stomping our feet will get us nowhere. Instead, let’s look at the issues and figure out how to fix them. Nobody is right 100% of the time. There needs to be compromise. And just to clarify, compromise means “a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles”. Stop lifting yourself up and blaming the other side. You can’t judge someone by their actions and ask them to judge you by your intentions.
I will always love you, no matter what. – Even if we don’t agree with the other person; even if we are mad at them and feel like abandoning their friendship, we still need to love each other. And even if we don’t always show it, we must make sure they know that through the garbage, we still love them. God loves us unconditionally, regardless of our response to Him. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we are still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8); and “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:7-8)
Maybe if we can show the slightest of love to our fellow brothers and sisters, this dark cloud hanging over us today could blow through a little quicker and allow the sun to shine through. Then maybe, just maybe, we can bring honor and glory to Him.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)