The issue of gender has been in the news quite a bit lately. It has drawn a wide swath across the landscape, from the idea that there are more than two genders, to freedom to marry the same sex, to proving which sex is the best in sports. There has been a significant increase in the fight between the two genders to such a level that, worldwide, the number of couples forming a typical family unit has fallen to new lows recently.

In China, the number of marriages has dropped in half in the past decade. At the same time, in the west, fewer and fewer men are saying they are interested in finding a wife or girlfriend.

Meanwhile in sports we can see that things are losing touch with reality.

The increase in competition between the sexes seems to be on a trajectory that will not stop until it is proven which is one of the two is best.  The idea that women should be able to compete head-to-head in any sport now appears to be the objective.

I don’t see what society will gain from all this competition.

Being born a man, I don’t have a clear understanding of the desire for females to find equality, but I do see some of the reasons that this may have started. During WW1, the men necessary to keep the economy going went off to war, and it left a huge hole in both the agricultural and manufacturing workforce. Without females stepping up to make the weapons need for the war, the war would have been lost.

Then when the war was over women were asked to go back to domestic work so that the men returning from the war could have their jobs back. This caused frustration among the female population, and it had some reasonableness to it.

When WW2 then came along, once again the women were needed to fill in jobs that were short of men once more.  The frustration that came from this is understandable. What, after all was the role of women in society?

This has led to a great leaning away. By that I mean instead of leaning toward one another and working together, each sex felt it might be better to go it alone.

I think, though, something has been forgotten along the road somewhere. That simple fact is that each sex has a design flaw that makes going it alone very difficult.

When is the last time you heard a man say, “I don’t think looks are really important.” …or, when is the last time you heard a woman say, “his actions speak louder to me than his words do.”

The reality is that men are visual creatures and much of their world is filtered through what they see. This is why many of them are very good at finding directions or like to work in fields like engineering or design.

Women as a rule are motivated by the auditory world. They buy most of the world’s music, they talk an average of 2x as many words in a day as a typical man, and they are often frustrated that the men in their life don’t often share how they are feeling.

The reality is that both sexes have what one might consider a design flaw, and I think this is likely on purpose.

Another quirk of nature is that 90% of the dumbest people on earth are male, which is no surprise to most women; however, 90% of the smartest people are also men. Men, on average, have a much wider distribution of intelligence than women do, which may be why they do a wider variety of work in our world.

So, what is the moral of the story?

Well, it’s simple really. Our only chance of success lies in leaning in -toward each other, instead of away. Handicapped as we both are, it’s really the only chance we have.

-The Loan Arranger