A wedding is usually a one-day event that requires months of planning. Over the past few months, I helped organize a wedding, attended another, and started the process of helping prepare for another wedding in the next year. One thing is for sure: they are a lot of work! Once the two lovebirds are officially engaged, the various tasks begin. They need to find a venue, send out save-the-date cards, gather a guest list, get invitations, find a caterer, pick their colors, choose flowers, and so on—and on and on.
The planning process requires a truly remarkable amount of time, money, compromises, anxiety, and anticipation; and often an equally remarkable sense of relief is felt when the day finally arrives. What I find interesting is how much time is allocated towards this one day, and how very little time is allocated towards preparing for the days, weeks, and years after. Specifically, I am talking about the lack of financial preparation. Couples rarely take the time to determine how each views money and find a game plan for their life together. Usually, each has different opinions on finances, which will eventually lead to an unhealthy amount of stress.
I have to wonder how much happier and healthier a marriage would be if the same effort and passion spent on the wedding were spent preparing for the financial future of the newlyweds. Could you imagine a marriage beginning where family and friends support and encourage the couple in wise financial practices? Even more importantly, one where, from the beginning, there is a commitment to God to live life as good financial stewards?
Every couple should ask God to bless them with the strength to be faithful with what He has provided and trust that He will be faithful in the tough times. I didn’t truly understand how vital this was when I first married but was fortunate enough to figure it out later. Now I want the ones I love to know about it much earlier in their journey.
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” – 1 Timothy 6:10
The reality is that the number one reason for divorce is money problems. I have heard of too many marriages that begin in substantial debt simply because they wanted to have the wedding of their dreams. Financial struggles will bring insecurity and low self-esteem, but being in control of their finances right out of the gate will bring newlyweds reassurance and raise
If you know of a young couple, I encourage you to invest in their future after the
wedding as much, if not more, as you invest in the wedding itself.