It seems we are never fully ready for the key markers in our lives. They start when we are very young, and continue until the day we die. Oh, we try to prepare ourselves, but it seems we still experience a state of worry or even panic when these times approach.

As Christians, we know God is in control, and that we need to place our trust in Him; but even still we have this sense of anxiety. Often we act like a duck on a pond. On the surface, everything appears calm; but underneath our legs are kicking like crazy.

Here are a few markers we face in our lives that tend to bring anxiety: first day of school, learning to ride a bike, going out for a team, learning to drive, going on a first date, getting married, having kids, our kids going through all the same firsts that we went through, kids going off to college, our kids getting married, becoming a grandparent, retirement, losing a spouse and leaving this world. All these firsts, and many, many more can bring an anxiety that can feel crippling; but they come whether we are ready or not.

The truth is, we panic far more than we need to. God is with us the entire way, guiding us through these challenging times.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

I recently saw the move Bridge of Spies, and in the movie, one of the main characters was facing difficult situations and was asked why he wasn’t worried, and if he was afraid of dying, to which he replied, “would it help?”. The truth is, our worry doesn’t help. Whether we are ready or not, life’s moments are going to happen. The ones that are positive, we need to embrace and enjoy. When the challenging ones come our way, we need to embrace God and trust in Him.

Personally, I have a son graduating college soon and heading off into the world; plus, and an empty nest is just around the corner. I see these big moments coming my way, and I would be lying if I didn’t admit that there was some anxiety. But is this anxiety helping? Nope. Am I leaving it all in God’s hands and trusting in Him completely. Absolutely not….but I’m working on it.

May God’s comforting hand guide you as you too experience these many joyous….and often difficult times in your life.

“Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.” – 2 Thessalonians 3:16